Gifts for Ladies with Cancer

When a woman is diagnosed with cancer, all of her friends and family want to make things better which is often impossible. Now making her feel better is another thing entirely. This is not the time for extravagant gifts but small, loving gifts will make her feel better.

If your friend is in the hospital for a protracted stay, you might bring a pretty card and some lovely flowers to decorate her room. Hospital rooms are so depressing that making the room more cheerful helps make the stay not so awful. If your friend has received lots of cards, bring some tape and put them on the walls. That really brightens a room.

If your friend can eat anything, bring her a home cooked meal. The meal should be something you know she really likes. Another idea is to ask her family what she particularly likes or enjoys. You might go to a favorite restaurant and get a take out that she will enjoy. Restaurant food is always so awful that some good food is bound to bring a smile.

When you bring cards, be careful of the message on the card. If the cancer is terminal, don’t buy cards that say ‘Get well.’ If the friend isn’t going to get well, these cards are reminders of her fate. Cards that say you are thinking about you or just want to brighten her day are better choices.

A book is another good choice providing that she feels like reading. Favorite magazines are also great gifts.

Rule of thumb about visiting hospitals is family stays as long as they want. Friends who are sitting with the sick person obviously stay as long as they are needed. If you are neither and there are other people in the room, plan to speak for a brief time and then leave. If your friend seems to want to talk, tell her you will come again when she isn’t blessed with so many loved ones. Next time you might want to give her a call before you come.

If the hospital is rather cool, you might want to buy a pretty bed jacket or sweater. Offer to take care of her hospital laundry if necessary and then bring it back the next day. Family members shouldn’t have to worry with these chores.

Always be cheerful and optimistic but don’t say you know she will be cured. Also, don’t inundate her with stories about people who had the same kind of cancer and died. Neither is appropriate.

Be a friend, stay a friend, and let her know that you will always be there. If the illness is protracted, many people will stop coming. This is depressing so you should let her know that you are there for the long haul. No matter how bad things get for your friend, stand by her as she would for you.

Copyright 2007 Janice D. Sterling - All Rights Reserved



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